Tradition vs modern
Thobeka is a unique woman… She knows what she wants in life and she refuses to settle for anything less. So when her husband-to-be asked for her hand in marriage, she knew she was going to do it in her own way.
My husband and I met at a party one night, and we just hit it off. Our engagement was a huge surprise to me. He asked me to find something in the glove compartment of his car. All I could find in there was an empty ring box. When I turned around, he was down on one knee with the ring in his hand.
We had a traditional wedding at my grandmother’s house in Ezakheni, where I grew up. While we kept a lot of the traditional elements, I knew I wanted something more modern.
My traditional wedding dress was amazing. I saw a very similar design in a magazine and when I went material shopping, I stumbled upon wonderful material that was just perfect. I took the picture to a local tailor and before I knew it, my perfect dress was made and I still think it is an absolutely stunning dress.
Staying with my traditional modern theme, I put my own spin on the food. We actually had a delicious curry and rice dish with salads. My aunt prepared the food for us; she was instrumental in the success of my wedding day. However, the men did have traditional Inhloko, which is basically boiled cow head. For dessert, we enjoyed ice cream and fruit salad.
My family is a traditional Zulu family, which means we have natural rhythm and superb voices. We sang and danced throughout the proceedings. My husband’s family were welcomed into mine. It truly was a joining of clans. It was a special day for us.
For some of the guests, this was a very different experience. It was their first time at a traditional wedding. They all described it as fantastic. They loved the relaxed atmosphere and music. Traditional weddings are always happy occasions.
We decided to have our white wedding at Thandana. It was a stylish affair and I felt like a princess in my beautiful gown. This gown was also custom made for me. It was elegant and comfortable.
I wasn’t sure about which colours I should use, but what I did know is that I wanted it to be stylish. And the first thing that came to mind for me was gold and cream. I think one can never go wrong with these colours. We had stunning photos done, and the scenery was just amazing.
The hall was absolutely beautiful, with stunning draping. The food was delicious and our families had such a wonderful time. Looking back, I wouldn’t change a thing.
My bride’s maids looked like angels. I will treasure these memories forever.
Northern KZN Get It September 2017